The Left Outs

No reasons made us friends and no reasons is needed to break friends:

Love, care and affection never try to enforce on someone by compulsion,

If you do compulsion it will always result in rejection.
When someone is happy in your absence,

That shows the value of your presence!

I never want my good friend to be separate, so I aid them even though they neglect.

They kept me aside separate, still I am so desperate even if they don't have any time to regret. Whatever I do they dislike, My acts of innocence will be treated as mistake.

Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.
Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow.

Just walk beside me and be my friend.

People love my silence than my speech,

I like them no matter what they do,

So i enact like a joker to make others smile!

I have been doubted all though the journey,

Chum's never thought me Trust worthy as they seldom believed in this unworthy.

I was like a season in their journey of life but they were remembered for every reason in my life, their memories are enough to me which makes me smile!

It is always better to give up ego than to lose a friend,

I try to hold on to friendship irrespective of their priorities to me,

Because I believe one day I get back my friend else a lesson for life time!
I pray for them each time, Let them be happy at all time!

- Phani
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Friendship for a Reason, for a Season or for a Life Span:

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. 

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, 

to provide you with guidance and support, 

to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. 

They may seem like a godsend and they are. 

They are there for the reason you need them to be. 

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or 

at an inconvenient time, this person will say or 

do something to bring the relationship to an end. 

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. 

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. 

What we must realize is that our need has been 

met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. 

The prayer you sent up has been answered 

and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,  

because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. 

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. 

They may teach you something you have never done. 

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. 

Believe it, it is real, but only for a season. 

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,

Things you must build upon in order 

to have a solid emotional foundation. 

Your job is to accept the lesson, 

love the person and put what you have 

learned to use in all other relationships 

and areas of your life. It is said that 

Love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

-Unknown

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Infotainment Guru, #PMH.
'Value of a thing is known only when it is lost'

The Odd Behavior

Why does the faces and behavior changes from time to time and from person to person..??!!

There is an old saying that 'Face is the index of mind' but it is not true at all time, as human faces are great deceivers at times. People do get carried away by the appearances and they dwells in the illusion believing what they have seen is true until they encounter the true face.

To believe is to get get deceived..!!!???

Every one of us has wide variety of roles to play in normal life and we change our faces according to the situation and circumstances wearing beautify mask hiding our nature from time to time. Sometime we wander around by fooling people who surrounds us by fabricating our faces. In office we wear the mask of as an Employee, to parents we mould ourselves to be a beloved child, a husband/wife, father/mother..etc we pose in different ways.

All of us are good and all are bad in many aspects. No one is good to everyone on earth, in the same way no one is bad to everyone. Even the greats have enemies and on the other side even the notorious people have their own set of followers. Osama is termed notorious but behind him there were many followers who protected and adore him. Similarly Gandhi was called 'Mahathma' and had millions of followers at the same time he also had many critics around the world.

If we try to be good on earth people will ridicule us saying 'He pretends as though he is a chunk of Buddha', if we try to be daring, harsh and little rough, same people will yell saying 'He is a Godless Bastard, rowdy attitude person' and finally if we ever try to sit in between good and bad trying to avoid appreciation or the hatred still people won't let us go, even then they say 'This person has no solid opinion, neither has self thinking nor decision taking attitude as he sits on fence and won't have clear cut opinion'. Whatever we are we will be questioned and fingers will be pointed in the course of life.

Coming back to the true faces behind the actual faces we can say that the physical muscular FACE is one, at times the way it appears for different people depends on the way they pursue it. Appearances also depends on the seeker's mentality and his ideology about that FACE he is viewing it. Hence they say'Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder'.

Swollen inside, yet Smiles outside..!

Faces behind the Faces:

We see situations where we neglects the folly committed by our loved ones with a easy go mind set and as a contradiction to this we have also seen even the simplest of mistake going to high pitch when the mistake is committed by a person whom we don't love. Adding value to variability of the nature exhibited by human brain we can quote one more example which serves as a value add to above point. This instance is regarding priority, we have time for our loved one even in the busiest of situation but we will be unwilling to spend sometime if someone is not so close to us. Both the examples above is pertaining to same face or character but the way it fabricates its nature depends on its own mentality.

Based on few case studies here are few more instances which are a bit different from those above. A human mind involves itself in loads circus when it wants to grab attention of someone whom it feels special and it does all tricks to get someones attention. When it succeeds in doing this it will start to wag its tail around. Once the person it desires becomes familiar there are chances of negligence overwhelming against the caring and affectionate nature. The mind slowly fine tunes its circus attempts to impress someone else. Hence they say in general: 'Everyone have time to respond to an unknown but doesn't bother to reply when it is known, New things glitters but gradually loses shine'. Same logic holds good for some of human relationship also.

Factors affecting human Psychology:

We need to understand the motive behind the act so that we know what was the cause  which resulted in these effects. There is no use in studying only the effects. One can realize the nature of others by knowing intangible hidden views, beliefs and attitude of a person slowly. The outward face, behavior, expressions, feelings has their root deep inside.

As per the Iceberg model if we try to polish the visible outward face alone we won't succeed in fine tuning the one's culture as the personality, behavior is based on invisible part of the iceberg that is attitude, self-belief [below water level].

Rain water falls on tree but water enters tree only through the pours in the root which lies below the ground. The core strength of the tree doesn't lie on its heavy trunk nor on the number of branches it has but it depends on how good and long the roots are, how firmly they are attached to soil, the deeper it is that much difficult to make a tree fall. Even when water gushes on top of tree it won't add much to the growth of tree until and unless it goes through proper channel, in the same way it is applicable for human behavior also. If behavior is to be changed then exercise is to be done on attitude, culture, self beliefs.

Why we fail to understand people?, Why we loose people even after knowing them?

• Lack of patience: Patience gives peace of mind, a relaxed mind can think rationally. If your thinking is proper it shows in action. If mind is calm we will be able to decide what's good and what's not! So, always have patience, tampering the temper will yield good temperament. Never IMAGINE or ASSUME things.

Everything that irritates about others can lead us to  an understanding of ourselves.

• Egoistic: Most of the time people are egocentric and due to which we are not ready to buy other ideas, never thinks about others by sitting in their shoes. When we are egocentric our views are based on our opinions. As much firm you are in your opinion that much it will be difficult to think in wide angle. Once we keep aside our ego and start asking our self 'How i feel if i was in that position?!' can only make us understand other situations.
  
  

  

  Love people for what they are instead of hating for what they lack.

• Emotion: 'Emotional hearts are always brittle', we should try to find a balanced emotion as there is no market for our sorrows. When emotions flows out of control then its not the right time to take any decisions. Decisions which you take in emotion will never pass through logical thought process.
• Fear of losing: Once you love, you gets attached, attachment give rise to bondage, from bondage to a bit of possessiveness. Once you are possessive you won't be willing to share your love neither can't imagine sharing it. Too much of love, care, affection will slowly result in quarrel if we are possessive. So they say A person who loves you the most will do two things for you extremely:a. Caring
  b. Hurting
  All is fair in Love and war. Reduce possessiveness as less as possible.
• Test And Trust: 'Don't Trust someone till you test, once you Trust don't often Test'. Doubt/Suspicion is the other side of possessiveness. No one can estimate the amount of Test or Trust someone has installed in you. If you are trusted make sure to keep up the TRUST, because once the TRUST RUST's its difficult to revert.
• Value other opinion: Valuing others beliefs, respecting other opinions time and again won't hamper self respect instead it shows 'We value relationship more than ego'.  After finding flaws its easy to move away but to gain a same old relationship its takes time. 'To err is to human and to forgive is divine'. Compromise and adjustments helps in understanding. Value the friendship, Value your true good friend but don't ever estimate the value of a friend nor the value of relationship!!
• Expectation: 'Expectations hurts' but there is no relationship which doesn't have expectations at all. Having expectation is not bad knowing what to expect is important, we should know the limits. Sacrifice impatience, negligence, ego, carelessness and desires which minimal's the expectation.
• Compulsion: Understand that 'We can force horse to water but we can't make it drink'. Don't try to enforce your values, ideologies on someone you love by force. "Love, Care and Affection can't be a forceful injection else it results in rejection". Leave your loved one freely. Never dump anything for anyone. All the 5 fingers in hand are not alike in the same way accept the differences and respect it and cherish the similarities rather than trying to change someone completely, accept people as they are.

"People come into your life for a REASON, a SEASON or a LIFETIME, when you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. Make sure not to lose anyone in life who is good when you find some differences. Be the first to ask sorry, Be the first to forgive the mistake. Try to treat all equally, Smile and keep others smiling. Keep life simple Love all hate none. No one is perfect that's why god sent us here to learn, share and understand by making out our mistakes. Neither avoid anyone who cares you, loves you nor avoid anything that makes you happy. Exhibit true face always and remember: True knowledge is always learning from our folly."

- #PMH @InfotainmentGuru

Nintendo

"Leaving luck to GOD"

'GOD', Everyone have their own believes and have their own experiences in life about supernatural power called 'God' in many situations. Its hard to define god but only an experiences might reveal the panorama of god. They say 'Experiences can't be explained but it only should be experienced'.

God is one-All religions preaches same thing-All are children's of same God..!

In life our selfishness, ego, endless desires avoids us from doing good and our deeds puts us in misery. Once we are pushed to hopeless condition we start to know the pain of others. When we see people suffering in many ways in our surroundings, we feel that we are of very little use to all of them who are in need, it shows how limited we are, thus realizing our aid can't pervade all over and we need someone or something to bring a change and to maintain natural state of order and to keep peace. The cause which upholds justice, maintains natural social order is termed as 'The Destiny' and means of communicating to him is called 'The Prayer'.

Goodness Wins..!

There are situations when we are drowned in problems, fighting hard to find solutions, we feels nothing more than a miracle or a luck can bring us upwards and we starts praying in pure heart without knowing what happens next and suddenly from no where we see good things happening, transforming our 'Lean Patch' into a 'Purple Patch' gives us the world view of 'Nintendo'.

Bad luck comes to those who thinks bad..
Wicked act of ours will land ourselves in trouble.

 Here is a small story which helped me to hold on to the principle 'Good happens to Good, Do good-Be good', my aunt told me this story when i was in downtrodden condition, where i was about to lose hope about Goodness, Good virtues and Almighty:

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" In a beautiful small village called 'Dharmapuri' there lived two friend 'Subudhi' and 'Kubudhi'. Both are of opposite personalities, Subudhi- a theist and Kubudhi- an atheist.

'Subudhi' was a great devotee of god, he used to start and end his day with prayers, Subudhi used to see god in his work & good deeds. he used to find sometime in helping poor and loved to share what he has for a good cause. Where as on the other hand his friend 'Kubudhi' was selfish, over confident, arrogant and had a belief that God is an illusion.

Kubudhi used to ridicule Subudhi whenever he perform prayers or helps poor saying: 'Fool, you will lose everything one day, being good is not good and worshiping idol won't give fortune, be like me and enjoy'. Subudhi was patient enough to listen to his critics and greets everything with smile and moves on with his usual routine.

Trust God and Find him in Good deeds..!

One day when both the friends went to fun fair in a distant village on their return they found a big pee-pal tree under which poor people was starving and a small temple beside the tree. As soon as 'Subudhi' saw it, he went to help the poor and thought to pray god. Seeing this 'kubudhi' started making fun of his friend and found happiness in teasing him by using wicked words, Kubudhi stood away from the poor and the temple, wandered loafing around. To his great surprise he found a diamond ring and Kubudhi ran toward his fiend jumping up in joy. On the other side 'Subudhi' came limping-yelling in pain with grief  he told to 'Kubudhi': 'Friend i went to help poor, later to pray god, while i was praying a big Scorpio bit my leg. What bad i did? i never cursed anyone nor wished bad for others.. I do good but why this happened?!'.

Kubudhi: 'Friend its foolish to believe in god and what we earn its ours, there is no need to help others. You understand this, see i don't believe in your ideas still i got DIAMOND RING but you :('

Subudhi: 'Oh! God!! What bad i did to you.. I am losing faith in you.. What made you to push me in this bad state and what happiness you gets from punishing one who is willing to do good..!!??'

Hearing the outburst God was ostensible suddenly and told: 'Child, I am there for you. The truth behind this Play of mine is not as you thought. 'Subudhi' you are my good devotee and you are kind enough to help poor so I Love You. As per the fate you should have been bitten by a Snake and would have been dead. But you prayed me, also your good deeds saved you, a Scorpio bit you instead of Snake and I gave you new life.

And for 'Kubudhi' fate wanted to gift him with a golden treasure but he never helped any one nor prayed me, spent time is loafing around, hence he was depraved of huge wealth and got only a diamond ring instead.'

A wealth which is of no use to poor is a waste..!

'Good people will suffer initially, Bad people seems to enjoy in life but at the end i upholds the truth and protects Dharma[Good] and will punish the evil, its difficult for a common man to understand god's play..Those who believes in me for them i will never deceive them'. "

Moral my aunt conveyed me was: Whatever happens it is for the Good.. Family, Friends might forsake you but almighty won't.. Do good and Be good!

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By InfotainmentGuru, #pmh

'Take things as it comes'
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