Traditional Values in your Culture & Ritual

Why we should still follow our diminishing Tradition, Culture and Rituals in today's world?

Its been a trend in today's world that most of the people follow others style without knowing why they are doing it. People in East looks at West and those who are in West turns to East.. Slowly we are seeing steady change in things we wear, things we do, food we eat and things we follow. I think, its common now that we fall in love blindly with others way of living and we questions those practices laid by our ancestors. Its human nature that only few will see what they have rather than looking at what others have, hardly few will try to know why these practices were given by our ancestors and the essence of it.

I felt that" whatever we do or follow is 'OK' if we are in love with it but I wish to quote at-least follow your ancestral Tradition, Beliefs, Values, their Culture and Ritual to the best possible way you can, so that you can save your ancestral uniqueness for the future generation to come else things will be monotonous". Lets not stop doing good things even in the smallest possible way rather than not doing it, if everyone is busy, if all of us are tired and if we think its 'OK' others are there to do some good and it's need not to be done by me, then there won't be any GOOD left in the world..!

Hmm.. Here is an incident where there was an accident in the mid of busy street, the guy was badly injured and bleeding, looks like he has missed the track and hit the lamppost. I saw many people in the busy street stood seeing the victim with great surprise, few were sad for him, few didn't bother to stop and help even after knowing that there needs some aid for the injured person, they were least bothered to see what went wrong. Others were making video for whats-app/face-book, some of them couldn't even notice there was something fishy as they were wearing headset listening to music or seeing mobile or on call/texting.
Even though most of them are sad or surprised, hardly few people readily came to aid the need. May be because they may have felt that they need to pay for the victim, if he is hospitalized or they need to be present in Police station/Court if called as witness in case of any issue/death. There were few people who felt this as a common scene and a death of people aren't something new to worry about. Few didn't find their loved ones in the eyes of suffering man, some people who knew the victim in person were about to help but didn't as they just followed those who passed by the victim as unseen. There were few crooked minds who helped the victim and in mean time snatched his wallet/money too.. Hmm variety of people aren't we?!

Among these different hearted, different mind-set people only handful of people were little kind to the victim or had the sense of humanity or kindness working to whatever extent that they had cultivated in them. Only those who see the suffering in others are real humans and not those who wear a Polo-T with a quote "Being Human". I saw one guy rushed to the victim and tried to lift him up and to ensure the injured person is 'OK', the other one rushed to give some water, as these two are about to leave there was one more person in the crowd aided the injured to breath easy by removing his bag-pack, shoes and a lady came buying some sort of anti-septic liquid, bandage and a generic ointment for applying the injured. As they left there was one strong guy who informed the police and other nice girl called the emergency helpline and couple more joined to assist the victim & stood with the victim till he was hospitalized and stood still their family/friends were available for the victim's help.

Even though you may not get a direct credit in helping the needy or the victim may not realize the amount of aid you gave him during his critical stage of life, but still few showed the amount of kindness, humanity to the best possible way that is left in them. Here victim may not give you any return gift but still few stood to help by not thinking like other hundreds of people. We can't judge those who helped were good and those who didn't were wrong but still... Hmm! May be there is a saying "What goes around, comes around in same way. What you do for others, you reap the same someday".. Yes, may be it's true..
Now, what was 'I' doing?! Who am 'I' when other played their role in the scene?!

Consider your ancestral culture, values, traditions and ritual as a victim (the person laid in the street suffering) and you are the person seeing the sufferings of your ancestral values or diminishing unique traditional cultural heritage of your Nation/State/Religion/Family, what you do, after seeing its gradual decaying phenomenon?!

'I' was the victim, 'I' am your "Traditional Values in your Culture & Ritual" ...!!

Now, just ask yourself...

• Would you stay as if you don't know about injury or you find a reason/a chance to escape from aiding me?
• Will you stay so occupied in your own world that you can't notice the suffering in me?
• Will you think this decaying of one value is the rise of something new and you can't be sad for any sort of loss and don't make any effort to save your ancestral uniqueness?
• Is it more important to capture the decaying process in an Instagram/Twitter and create a buzz about my endanger rather than saving me?
• Are you one among those who just feel sad and stood surprised seeing the fatal incident of mine?
• Are you among those who were willing to help but blindly copied others who didn't bother to aid?
• Are you that person who couldn't find himself in the place of victim and failed to feel the pain even after knowing the impact of it?
• Will you pretend to help and ill utilize the scenario to your benefit?

OR

• Will you be the one, who rush to aid by feeling the pain of mine even when you can't completely heal my condition?
• Will you be the one, who helps to ease situation even if its not in your control?
• Would you be the one who comes at-least with a small help even when he cant aid in big ways to save the culture?
• Will you assist by practicing the right protocol and intimating right people in time of need and show courtesy to protect the 'decaying national heritage'?
• Are you that one person who stays till the end holding on to good practice, principles after knowing the intensity of pain and feel it as yours?

Its left to each one of us to decide whether to pass on the baton given to us by our elders to the next generation to come in the same way (or with a slightly polished way) or its worth to just run behind others baton and create a prototype of others by leaving your own baton (a unique one).



#InfotainmentGuru #MyLastLines

- By #PMH

The other side of it!

The brighter side of Life:

Sometime in life when we think everything is fine and going on well, when we are about to leave a sigh of relief saying to ourselves “Oh! Yes, this is what I was looking for! ”, we encounter unexpected things which might make our dreams doomed.

There might be situations where we feel world seems to come to an end and when we feel curtains are dropping, someone from somewhere or few magical moments can make us feel “Yeah! This was the silver line I was looking for..!! ”.

Someone told “Experience should be experienced, it can’t be explained”, Yes, that’s true, what we feel only we can know, no one else can understand us better than ourselves. Few try to expect and express so much and few tries to express or hide it in silence. Here I am writing a hypothetical story which is called “The other side of Life”, the story runs around a person dreams, aspiration, his love and the potholes in his life, and a fight between solitude, love and dream. I hope it might touch at least one heart.

“There was a girl named ‘Gowri’ who had two dreams from her childhood, one to help people and the other one is to be with family and friendly people, she wanted to get true love, she wished to keep all of them really happy! She used to choose people, and even if she had only few nice people around, she used to devote herself to them, as she grew her aspiration didn’t changed, few who were really close left her and she kept waiting for the left outs, in the due course of time as she was in her final year degree, she fell in love with her bath mate ‘Akshay’, he was everything to her and her world seems limited, now few countable friends, family and Akshay.

Gowri was good in academics all through and made name for herself not only because of her looks but mainly for her principles, she was different, a loyal, honest and obedient student in her batch, if everyone are of one kind, she always stood separate in queue, Akshay was also pretty, he was realistic & brainy as few says ‘Beauty & Brain goes together’, maybe he is one of that kind.

It seems as per the rule of law: Opposite nature do attract unlike the quote ‘like mind thinks alike’ or ‘Birds of same kind flocks together’, they say + * + = +, I am not sure how reliable this logic works on human nature, here everything was fair in love and war. At this point everything seemed so fine, life is happy, both got placed in an MNC, may be people around them were so jealous of their love life. At the time when its nearly second year love anniversary, when all is well, the things took an unexpected twist, the gal who dreamt to help so many people is now confined to her small world, which she assumes to be big for her, it had limited participants but it was everything for her, may be ‘love is blind’ which can make you forget what you are, what you wanted to be and what you are doing..!

There is a saying ‘Especially Girls and few boys loves Mysterious strangers’, they try to do anything & any sort of tricks to get their attention in the beginning, after knowing them people generally loses interest in it. Few never bother to listen and proactively commits mistakes and wanna learn on their own, Only God knows why people can’t learn by looking at others folly. Also a realistic personality will never blame itself nor have a potential to introspect because they feel there is no reason to repent for anything. They feel there is no room for guilt also. After two years of love, when they started working in two different MNC’s there was few hiccups in their life now, instead of finding time for each other and holding hands when it’s needed both who truly loved fell prey for destiny’s game. I think DISTANCE & TIME proves who is near and dear in you.

Akshay felt ‘We know each other from couple of years, Gowri knows me and can understand me and started to find time for himself and his new aim, people, because he feels he knows everything about his Gowri, so as she and things can never go wrong!’ but there on the other side Gowri too felt ‘Akshay, knows me, still why there seems no time for her’.

May be few things destined to break, sometime we assume after knowing things for a while, we know everything about it and we take things for granted, the same intensity of affection and care may gradually reduce and we finds reasons and excuses to fill in the mistake without accepting and correcting it, that’s why few says ‘Things glitter when its new’, at the end of third year anniversary due to constant ego clashes willingly or unwillingly hearts got separated.

Gowri felt her world is ended, she left even those few friends she had and even her family, she resigned her job not because she don’t need them now, it just not to hurt them by telling what all the turmoil she has underwent, so she went in exile but always showed happy face to family whenever she met. Gowri joined army and started to serve county now and by doing which she is trying to heel those scars in the heart. But she lost her charm, the smiling face is now a hallucination, her life has lost the gist.

She had fought with enemies in fierce battle without caring for her life as she feels her life is deserted after the departure of Akshay, she laid helping hand many rescue operation, many people now admire her, hundreds of people got rebirth because of her rescue act, now she never feels she is on top and even on getting hurt in any small accidents she never feels low. May be true love, true friendship can happen once or rarely. All girls can’t be ‘Gowri’ and hardly few respects and values emotions & true relationship.

She has depended so much on her Love, i.e. Akshay, so much of trust was bestowed on him! Alas! Now everything is past, may be everyone may not have the quality of identifying what they have and how valuable it is, few can’t realize even after losing it. ”What a materialistic world it has turned out to be, need to feel pity for those who still finds so much tough to move on in life!”

One fine day Gowri rescues a small child and a very old granny in a flood affected area, the elderly women thanked Gowri and praises her for the wonderful job she is doing in such a young age unlike other teenagers, even the little child hugs and kisses Gowri, still there is no smile nor any emotions left now, because she had tried so much in the past to make Akshay realize how much he meant to her and how she need same old Akshay but in the due to course of changing him, she is now hard hearted, as she got changed.

The old lady identifies there might be a havoc which might have given this nature to a young girl like ‘Gowri’ and compels Gowri to speak up and tell about her past. “How much ever a man try to change his true nature and try to act as if he has overcame his true face, still the residue remains deep down in his heart”. The tender heart which swallowed agony silently over the years and tamed itself and pretended to be hard turns soft once it goes to nostalgia, in the melancholic mood Gowri unfolds her past.

After knowing the Gowri’s aspiration in childhood and the problems she faced the Granny consoles Gowri by saying following lines:

Gowri, you aimed to devote yourself for the goodness of people, which was the 1^st and the foremost thing you dreamt as a kid and God answered it in his own ways and helped you in standing where you aimed to be.

After meeting Akshay, you were confined only for him, when you were with your friends even if they left, you dwelled in their memories and you hardly changed when rest of the world was moving in fast pace, because you are a CHILD in heart, which is innocent, ignorant and easily satisfied, for it, only its home, few people around will be its world, it can’t expect more nor wants anything less. But even after time passed by, you wanted to do good for others, didn’t aspired to lead life in lust, so God took away all those people whom you got attached to, as he never wanted you to lose focus in life.

You had a bigger better world awaiting for you, where you have those people who really needs true caring, selfless, kind people like you, so he took all those friends, even if they are few, may be your love is so pure that God didn’t wanted unworthy people to get the true thing, so don’t be sad for what had happened in the past.

By taking away what you felt like wanted, he brought you back to the place where you wanted to be, now after so many falls in life seeing the cause and effects of change you are for more stronger than what you were, few people who were with you is replaced by hundreds of people who worship you, respect you and thank you every day for what you have given it to them, when we start to give unconditional love, when we help people without having least expectation we can only gain and we can never lose. You are born to give not to run behind few people, if things are really ours it comes to us wherever it is!

Gowri understands the other side of life, the broader way of looking into things, how God puts us in trouble like situation and finally he only brings us back to where we belong, she understand that every situation or problem is to be viewed in multiple ways, one from our side, second is from others way of it, may be the third is the Gods view point that is; thinking and believing that everything happens for a reason and in any condition we should not drop our shoulders.

From that day Gowri finds real happiness and a nice gorgeous smile on her face, she enjoys what she does and she is happy for what she is”.

Love unconditionally, never have expectation, forgive those people who hurt you, forget the bad, and try to find at least one good quality even in bad. Love those who love you but never hate those who dislikes you; we are here to make people happy and smile not to worry for what is not in our control. PAST is PAST, FUTURE is a MYSTERY but TODAY is a GIFT, that’s why it is called PRESENT...

By, Infotainment Guru
#PMH
#PMH_LastLines

The Pillars:

Who holds the seamless sky from falling on earth?!:

Hey, here I am back to blogging after getting few feedbacks and getting inspired from a fellow friend cum bolgger... I blogged many pages in last few posts but this time want to follow (not completely) the saying ‘Blogs should be short and Stories should be long’. Few have an opinion that my blogs run around melancholy may be I coated Vedanta & the inner meaning didn’t reach people... Anyways here is a post which is not completely mine but a story which gives an essential moral for the man who seeks for it..!

There was village in ancient India called ‘Devagiri’, Devagiri was a beautiful place having vast farm land and pleasant river named ‘Samrudhi’ was flowing. People in Devagiri were happy and believed in farming. There lived an innocent & wicked villager called ‘Nanda’, Nanda was a shepherd who spent most of the time with nature.

Once ‘Nanda’ was taking care of sheep’s in shade near the hill side, suddenly he felt quake and from a distance Nanda saw the huts falling, he got hesitant and started to run from that place and came to the center of village, there he saw few old houses with pillars getting collapsed in front of him. Nanda started to run with fear. Few villagers stooped and asked him “why are you tensed? It’s a quake, where can you run away?!”

Nanda told: Run guys, run, see those houses with 4 to 8 pillars fell down, huts fell down and just see the sky it is also falling because it has no pillars at all, before it fall on our head let us escape from it.

Villagers said: Nanda, Hey Nanda, stop..! How can a sky fall? Sky filled with clouds is just floating.. You wicked, stop!

Nanda ran and ran seeing floating clouds with fear from village to village till his energy dried up and finally felt unconscious near an Ashram called ‘Mukthi Dhama’. On seeing him the Sawami of that Ashram treated Nanda with care, fed him with Good food and asked the reason for his anxiety.

Nanda said: Swami I am from ‘Devagiri’ I ran to escape from falling Sky, see Swami, the houses and the huts with Pillars collapsed in quake then how can this Sky can stay without falling on our head?! You also run Swami Let both of us escape!!

Swamiji gave a deep thought after knowing the reason for Nanda’s fear and told:

Nanda, who told sky doesn’t have pillars?! Sky has strong pillars, can’t you see? It won’t fall, you don’t worry. I am here.

Nanda said: Swami I ran miles together, round and round in circles, I saw from hill top, from left, right of roads but didn’t see any pillars... Can you show me where the pillars which are holding the sky?!

Swami said: I will show you but you should do as I say, go in disguise as a beggar in this village and plead for food but make sure you scold them as bad as you can and get the offerings from them.

Nanda was shocked hearing Swami’s words and went to beg in disguise thinking how is this related to pillar’s for Sky??!!

Nanda went and scolded people and asked food, many of them scolded back, beaten him, kicked him telling being a beggar how arrogant you are. Nanda felt so bad getting hit from everyone but in evening he returned to Ashram in pathetic condition.

Swami asked Nanda: Child, my child, get up, did you get any offerings?

Nanda started weeping and showed the wounds on his body and explained his experience saying:

Swami many people hit me, few kicked me, few scolded me back hearing my scolding yet asking offerings from them but among the hundreds who ill treated me, I found only few people even after hearing my yelling, even after feeling bad by my odd behavior they told nice words to me and gave me something to eat, see swami only this much offerings I found. Now tell me swami where are the pillar’s for this vast sky? Even after many sin that man had committed how earth is holding all the pain? & why sky is not falling, are the pillars present? Even after harming nature how can people be safe from Quakes, Floods? Say swami, say!

Swami told: Child, Oh! Child, Yes you are right my dear, even after repeated destruction from man the Sky is still floating, whatever the man do to nature still from time to time we get rain, proper light, good air to breath, food to eat.

See Nanda, those people who offered something to you even after hearing your harsh words, who told nice words even after getting hurt and did good for those who came to do bad are the PILLAR’s for Sky. As long as these selfless, humble and good natured people stay good will happen to all, because of the good will and prayers of these few people, God will do good not only for them but to all of us, these good people are the backbone of this society.

My child, Do good and Be good no matter what others do and you will see good happenings around you. Till you are good do not fear to any one, God bless you. Go back to village and live happily!

Enlightened Nanda returned to Devagiri and led a happy life by being and doing good!

Enemy is within you but not without you,
before you judge others make sure to know what you are? 

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- Phani

'Giving hit for a hit is common but forgiving the bad & doing good shows we are Humans..!'

Nintendo

"Leaving luck to GOD"

'GOD', Everyone have their own believes and have their own experiences in life about supernatural power called 'God' in many situations. Its hard to define god but only an experiences might reveal the panorama of god. They say 'Experiences can't be explained but it only should be experienced'.

God is one-All religions preaches same thing-All are children's of same God..!

In life our selfishness, ego, endless desires avoids us from doing good and our deeds puts us in misery. Once we are pushed to hopeless condition we start to know the pain of others. When we see people suffering in many ways in our surroundings, we feel that we are of very little use to all of them who are in need, it shows how limited we are, thus realizing our aid can't pervade all over and we need someone or something to bring a change and to maintain natural state of order and to keep peace. The cause which upholds justice, maintains natural social order is termed as 'The Destiny' and means of communicating to him is called 'The Prayer'.

Goodness Wins..!

There are situations when we are drowned in problems, fighting hard to find solutions, we feels nothing more than a miracle or a luck can bring us upwards and we starts praying in pure heart without knowing what happens next and suddenly from no where we see good things happening, transforming our 'Lean Patch' into a 'Purple Patch' gives us the world view of 'Nintendo'.

Bad luck comes to those who thinks bad..
Wicked act of ours will land ourselves in trouble.

 Here is a small story which helped me to hold on to the principle 'Good happens to Good, Do good-Be good', my aunt told me this story when i was in downtrodden condition, where i was about to lose hope about Goodness, Good virtues and Almighty:

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" In a beautiful small village called 'Dharmapuri' there lived two friend 'Subudhi' and 'Kubudhi'. Both are of opposite personalities, Subudhi- a theist and Kubudhi- an atheist.

'Subudhi' was a great devotee of god, he used to start and end his day with prayers, Subudhi used to see god in his work & good deeds. he used to find sometime in helping poor and loved to share what he has for a good cause. Where as on the other hand his friend 'Kubudhi' was selfish, over confident, arrogant and had a belief that God is an illusion.

Kubudhi used to ridicule Subudhi whenever he perform prayers or helps poor saying: 'Fool, you will lose everything one day, being good is not good and worshiping idol won't give fortune, be like me and enjoy'. Subudhi was patient enough to listen to his critics and greets everything with smile and moves on with his usual routine.

Trust God and Find him in Good deeds..!

One day when both the friends went to fun fair in a distant village on their return they found a big pee-pal tree under which poor people was starving and a small temple beside the tree. As soon as 'Subudhi' saw it, he went to help the poor and thought to pray god. Seeing this 'kubudhi' started making fun of his friend and found happiness in teasing him by using wicked words, Kubudhi stood away from the poor and the temple, wandered loafing around. To his great surprise he found a diamond ring and Kubudhi ran toward his fiend jumping up in joy. On the other side 'Subudhi' came limping-yelling in pain with grief  he told to 'Kubudhi': 'Friend i went to help poor, later to pray god, while i was praying a big Scorpio bit my leg. What bad i did? i never cursed anyone nor wished bad for others.. I do good but why this happened?!'.

Kubudhi: 'Friend its foolish to believe in god and what we earn its ours, there is no need to help others. You understand this, see i don't believe in your ideas still i got DIAMOND RING but you :('

Subudhi: 'Oh! God!! What bad i did to you.. I am losing faith in you.. What made you to push me in this bad state and what happiness you gets from punishing one who is willing to do good..!!??'

Hearing the outburst God was ostensible suddenly and told: 'Child, I am there for you. The truth behind this Play of mine is not as you thought. 'Subudhi' you are my good devotee and you are kind enough to help poor so I Love You. As per the fate you should have been bitten by a Snake and would have been dead. But you prayed me, also your good deeds saved you, a Scorpio bit you instead of Snake and I gave you new life.

And for 'Kubudhi' fate wanted to gift him with a golden treasure but he never helped any one nor prayed me, spent time is loafing around, hence he was depraved of huge wealth and got only a diamond ring instead.'

A wealth which is of no use to poor is a waste..!

'Good people will suffer initially, Bad people seems to enjoy in life but at the end i upholds the truth and protects Dharma[Good] and will punish the evil, its difficult for a common man to understand god's play..Those who believes in me for them i will never deceive them'. "

Moral my aunt conveyed me was: Whatever happens it is for the Good.. Family, Friends might forsake you but almighty won't.. Do good and Be good!

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By InfotainmentGuru, #pmh

'Take things as it comes'
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