The Odd Behavior

Why does the faces and behavior changes from time to time and from person to person..??!!

There is an old saying that 'Face is the index of mind' but it is not true at all time, as human faces are great deceivers at times. People do get carried away by the appearances and they dwells in the illusion believing what they have seen is true until they encounter the true face.

To believe is to get get deceived..!!!???

Every one of us has wide variety of roles to play in normal life and we change our faces according to the situation and circumstances wearing beautify mask hiding our nature from time to time. Sometime we wander around by fooling people who surrounds us by fabricating our faces. In office we wear the mask of as an Employee, to parents we mould ourselves to be a beloved child, a husband/wife, father/mother..etc we pose in different ways.

All of us are good and all are bad in many aspects. No one is good to everyone on earth, in the same way no one is bad to everyone. Even the greats have enemies and on the other side even the notorious people have their own set of followers. Osama is termed notorious but behind him there were many followers who protected and adore him. Similarly Gandhi was called 'Mahathma' and had millions of followers at the same time he also had many critics around the world.

If we try to be good on earth people will ridicule us saying 'He pretends as though he is a chunk of Buddha', if we try to be daring, harsh and little rough, same people will yell saying 'He is a Godless Bastard, rowdy attitude person' and finally if we ever try to sit in between good and bad trying to avoid appreciation or the hatred still people won't let us go, even then they say 'This person has no solid opinion, neither has self thinking nor decision taking attitude as he sits on fence and won't have clear cut opinion'. Whatever we are we will be questioned and fingers will be pointed in the course of life.

Coming back to the true faces behind the actual faces we can say that the physical muscular FACE is one, at times the way it appears for different people depends on the way they pursue it. Appearances also depends on the seeker's mentality and his ideology about that FACE he is viewing it. Hence they say'Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder'.

Swollen inside, yet Smiles outside..!

Faces behind the Faces:

We see situations where we neglects the folly committed by our loved ones with a easy go mind set and as a contradiction to this we have also seen even the simplest of mistake going to high pitch when the mistake is committed by a person whom we don't love. Adding value to variability of the nature exhibited by human brain we can quote one more example which serves as a value add to above point. This instance is regarding priority, we have time for our loved one even in the busiest of situation but we will be unwilling to spend sometime if someone is not so close to us. Both the examples above is pertaining to same face or character but the way it fabricates its nature depends on its own mentality.

Based on few case studies here are few more instances which are a bit different from those above. A human mind involves itself in loads circus when it wants to grab attention of someone whom it feels special and it does all tricks to get someones attention. When it succeeds in doing this it will start to wag its tail around. Once the person it desires becomes familiar there are chances of negligence overwhelming against the caring and affectionate nature. The mind slowly fine tunes its circus attempts to impress someone else. Hence they say in general: 'Everyone have time to respond to an unknown but doesn't bother to reply when it is known, New things glitters but gradually loses shine'. Same logic holds good for some of human relationship also.

Factors affecting human Psychology:

We need to understand the motive behind the act so that we know what was the cause  which resulted in these effects. There is no use in studying only the effects. One can realize the nature of others by knowing intangible hidden views, beliefs and attitude of a person slowly. The outward face, behavior, expressions, feelings has their root deep inside.

As per the Iceberg model if we try to polish the visible outward face alone we won't succeed in fine tuning the one's culture as the personality, behavior is based on invisible part of the iceberg that is attitude, self-belief [below water level].

Rain water falls on tree but water enters tree only through the pours in the root which lies below the ground. The core strength of the tree doesn't lie on its heavy trunk nor on the number of branches it has but it depends on how good and long the roots are, how firmly they are attached to soil, the deeper it is that much difficult to make a tree fall. Even when water gushes on top of tree it won't add much to the growth of tree until and unless it goes through proper channel, in the same way it is applicable for human behavior also. If behavior is to be changed then exercise is to be done on attitude, culture, self beliefs.

Why we fail to understand people?, Why we loose people even after knowing them?

• Lack of patience: Patience gives peace of mind, a relaxed mind can think rationally. If your thinking is proper it shows in action. If mind is calm we will be able to decide what's good and what's not! So, always have patience, tampering the temper will yield good temperament. Never IMAGINE or ASSUME things.

Everything that irritates about others can lead us to  an understanding of ourselves.

• Egoistic: Most of the time people are egocentric and due to which we are not ready to buy other ideas, never thinks about others by sitting in their shoes. When we are egocentric our views are based on our opinions. As much firm you are in your opinion that much it will be difficult to think in wide angle. Once we keep aside our ego and start asking our self 'How i feel if i was in that position?!' can only make us understand other situations.
  
  

  

  Love people for what they are instead of hating for what they lack.

• Emotion: 'Emotional hearts are always brittle', we should try to find a balanced emotion as there is no market for our sorrows. When emotions flows out of control then its not the right time to take any decisions. Decisions which you take in emotion will never pass through logical thought process.
• Fear of losing: Once you love, you gets attached, attachment give rise to bondage, from bondage to a bit of possessiveness. Once you are possessive you won't be willing to share your love neither can't imagine sharing it. Too much of love, care, affection will slowly result in quarrel if we are possessive. So they say A person who loves you the most will do two things for you extremely:a. Caring
  b. Hurting
  All is fair in Love and war. Reduce possessiveness as less as possible.
• Test And Trust: 'Don't Trust someone till you test, once you Trust don't often Test'. Doubt/Suspicion is the other side of possessiveness. No one can estimate the amount of Test or Trust someone has installed in you. If you are trusted make sure to keep up the TRUST, because once the TRUST RUST's its difficult to revert.
• Value other opinion: Valuing others beliefs, respecting other opinions time and again won't hamper self respect instead it shows 'We value relationship more than ego'.  After finding flaws its easy to move away but to gain a same old relationship its takes time. 'To err is to human and to forgive is divine'. Compromise and adjustments helps in understanding. Value the friendship, Value your true good friend but don't ever estimate the value of a friend nor the value of relationship!!
• Expectation: 'Expectations hurts' but there is no relationship which doesn't have expectations at all. Having expectation is not bad knowing what to expect is important, we should know the limits. Sacrifice impatience, negligence, ego, carelessness and desires which minimal's the expectation.
• Compulsion: Understand that 'We can force horse to water but we can't make it drink'. Don't try to enforce your values, ideologies on someone you love by force. "Love, Care and Affection can't be a forceful injection else it results in rejection". Leave your loved one freely. Never dump anything for anyone. All the 5 fingers in hand are not alike in the same way accept the differences and respect it and cherish the similarities rather than trying to change someone completely, accept people as they are.

"People come into your life for a REASON, a SEASON or a LIFETIME, when you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. Make sure not to lose anyone in life who is good when you find some differences. Be the first to ask sorry, Be the first to forgive the mistake. Try to treat all equally, Smile and keep others smiling. Keep life simple Love all hate none. No one is perfect that's why god sent us here to learn, share and understand by making out our mistakes. Neither avoid anyone who cares you, loves you nor avoid anything that makes you happy. Exhibit true face always and remember: True knowledge is always learning from our folly."

- #PMH @InfotainmentGuru